Saturday, September 6, 2008
Very shortly after I created my website (which has now become this blog) and sent it to my friends, a Republican friend of mine emailed me with this:
"I'm interested in what, exactly, the tipping point was for you. Is it the idea that women shouldn't be conservative? Must the shattering of the 'glass ceiling' be done only by a registered Democrat? If so, it obviously isn't a womens' issue at all, but a political one."
Of course, anyone who knows me including my Republican friend, knows my immediate reaction was to begin to get a bit heated. But then I stopped and thought about it. This is a fair and legitimate question, deserving of a thoughtful answer. Was there a Tipping Point? Yes, I am certain that there was, but it came after a long a frustrating process.
I think you may have to be a woman in your fifties or older to really understand. Perhaps if I share a personal story with you it will become clearer.
Go back with me to the early 1980s. Picture yourself as the only woman in a room full of men. You are a young woman in your 20s and the men are all older than you. They are your colleagues - your peers. You are meeting them for the first time at a staff meeting. Before your boss arrives, they greet you warmly and then say, "You should know, the boss hates women. He is going to make your life miserable." It is clear in the days following that meeting that they are right. Your boss is an old-timer with the company and he is not happy at having a young, up-and-coming female foisted on him. What would you do in that situation?
What I did was ask my boss to come to my office for a meeting. I confronted him with the problem directly by stating, "I understand you have a problem with women. Well, there is not much I can do about the fact that I am one. But I can tell you that I will do a better job than any of my colleagues and that is all you should care about." In the end, I received his highest recommendation.
HOWEVER, imagine that in spite of all that, working your hardest, managing through that system, giving it your all, achieving the highest rank in the district, you still standby and watch as a newer, younger MALE comes into the organization and takes the promotion over you. Imagine that happens not once, but three times. Of course there is always a reason, a very good reason...
Flash forward to 2008, Hillary Clinton is running for President of the United States. The first truly viable female presidential candidate we have seen. Eighteen Million people support her. 1800+ delegates line up behind her at the Democratic National Convention. So close, so very close. But wait...there is a younger, handsomer, young MALE candidate. Well, we've seen it before. We've lived it before.
Yes, we are disappointed. And hurt. And angry. Excuse us for having emotions. Oh, but John McCain is there. He certainly is. With his advertisements using Hillary supporters to try to woo us to his side.
Unfortunately, he did not count on Hillary Clinton taking the High Road. He did not figure that at the Democratic National Convention, Hillary would ask her supporters to think hard about why we had supported her. He did not count on Hillary actually having the courage to herself move that Barack Obama be selected as the Democratic Party's nominee by Acclimation. He did not count on Hillary's asking us to support Obama in the name of party unity and then so admirably modelling that unity herself.
I understand that Senator McCain ran ads alluding to why Hillary Clinton was "passed over" for the Vice Presidential slot in Obama's campaign. Again, trying to build up the flames of our anger and resentment. I guess it must not have been working, however, because the best was yet to come with the announcement on Sunday, August 30, 2008, that Senator McCain had chosen Sarah Palin, a virtual political unknown to be his running mate. As if to say, "I know what you want. You want a woman to actually be on the ticket! It doesn't matter if she is qualified or not. It doesn't matter if she supports women's issues or not. As long as she is a woman, I'm sure you will all coming running to me in droves."
A Tipping Point? I guess my answer would have to be, yes, there was a Tipping Point and Sarah Palin is that Tipping Point. To answer your specific questions: Does the glass ceiling have to be shattered by a registered Democrat or the woman shouldn't be conservative? No, those aren't the issues. But for me, as a woman, I would like the woman who shatters that glass ceiling to represent me in a little better way than Sarah Plain seems to be representing me. For example:
- A woman who believes that abortions should be banned EVEN IN THE CASE OF RAPE AND INCEST is not someone who represents me even a little.
- A woman who, as mayor of a small town, wants librarians to ban books from the local library is not someone who represents me even a little.
- A woman who gives birth to a Down-Syndrome child and then chooses to leave that 4-month-old special needs child behind while she runs for Vice President of the United States is not someone who represents me even a little.
- A woman who completely disparages all of the community organizers I know - the people who organize and run the battered women's shelters, the homeless shelters, the soup kitchens and many other organizations that are necessary to take care of the mess left to us by the Bush Administration is not someone who represents me even a little.
- A woman who attends a church that supports Jews for Jesus evangelicals and their thinking about God's punishment on the Jews is not someone who represents me even a little.
I could go on, but you see my point. I think Senator McCain could have chosen a better and more qualified woman for this position if he had looked for one. A woman, though conservative, who could have represented me even a little and who I may have been persuaded to support. However, Gloria Steinem and I agree, Governor Palin is little more than a younger version of Phyllis Schlafly. I believe that even conservative Republican women have come a little farther than that by now.
So my friend, there is your answer. It is both a woman's issue and a political one. I am sure our discussion has only just begun. I appreciate your making me think about this though. I hope you think about it too.
Kathy B.